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Flights and Different Time Zones

Sunday, February 3, 2013

This morning, Rob and I sat down together by a window in the Roanoke Airport's little cafe with a cup of black coffee and a plate of greasy hash browns as we waited for his flight to Minnesota.


"What if we got something that was just mixed with a pit bull?" Rob asked, in regard to the breed restrictions of most apartment complexes. The discussion of our future dog is just one of the hypothetical conversations we have. I don't know if it's a coping mechanism or what--because as much as we'd love to plan out the rest of our lives, the truth is that we're really just taking it two weeks at a time now. I have a flight booked for mid-February to visit him in Minnesota, and then in early March he'll be coming to Virginia for our anniversary. And then we'll plan another month.

Rob hasn't even landed in Minneapolis yet, and already I get so many supportive and uplifting comments from you guys, telling me that my positive attitude for this whole thing is inspiring; it's what's going to get me through. I appreciate all of that so much, but I'm not really sure if "we'll figure it out as we go" is just something I say or if it's really enough for me so far. I look at families with a parent in the military who gets deployed, and friends with fiances in different countries, and I still feel like I have a pretty good deal in all of this.

But as lucky as I feel, I still fell apart this morning as he packed up his bags and put on his heavy winter coat. I still cried over our shared plate of hash browns at the airport, and I still felt a little lost as I walked to my car after hugging and kissing him goodbye at the security checkpoint. Only taking it a few weeks at a time can be really simple and effective, and it can also be really overwhelming.

So here I am, on my own on a Sunday morning, feeling a bit overwhelmed, but determined to make the best of it.

23 comments:

  1. Oh lovely... My last relationship was entirely long distance (him in Bordeaux, me in Cardiff, or me in Devon, and him in Guernsey- long story) so I totally know how awful the leaving part is. Try to keep your chin up and the time will pass quicker :) x

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    1. Thank you Alice! The goodbye is definitely the hardest part!

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  2. thank you very much for sharing this post with us

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  3. Really you have great ideas and great blog

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  4. Sending you lots of courage from the other side of the ocean. I understand how hard this can be. Just like you said, making the best of it is the way to go. Have a lovely day and take time to relax and drink tea and eat chocolate! :)

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    1. Thanks, Charlotte! I'll definitely be making time for those things :)

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  5. Sending you lots of love! I know how you feel me and the bf spend six months apart, which I know is nothing compared to some people. But it was hard me moving to another state by myself and waiting six months for him to get there. I promise you that journey makes your relationship that much stronger. You have nothing to worry about, just take it one day at a time.

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  6. so sorry megan...this all sounds really hard. the nice thing is that it cannot last forever and it always gets better :).

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  7. Hey! Just found your blog :) So cool you grew up in Roanoke. I am from just south of Lynchburg and living in Richmond now! Would love for you to follow back...you have such great style!!!

    XO Samantha
    http://designerinteal.blogspot.com

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  8. I´m sending you positive thoughts! Thank you for sharing this with us, you´re really strong! Never forget that! :)

    Mari
    http://marilovescupcakes.blogspot.com.ar

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  9. lots of good thoughts on the figuring it out as we go. honestly i would take any kind of relationship at the moment..ha ha

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  10. (trying to tell you this via every medium possible...)

    you DO have a great attitude about all this, including the falling apart bit. it wouldn't be real if you didn't, you know? it takes a lot of strength to take long distance a few weeks at a time - Jon and I learned the hard way that we don't have that, which is why we took a little break when we first tried it back in fall 2009 - and your love and faith is really inspiring.

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  11. Oh girl, I feel you! Luke and I did 6 years of long distance before we finally lived in the same town and a year later were married. It's so hard, especially the goodbyes. But if you can get through this, I truly believe you can get through anything. :)

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  12. Hello. New follower from www.thememorynest.blogspot.com

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  13. My husband and I did long distance for 6 years before we were married, hang in there!

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  14. Stay strong Megan, it will all work out in the end and it will all be worth it. You'll learn so much more about yourself and about Rob and your relationship will be so much stronger because of it. You have a beautiful thing, I know you know that. Keep your chin up, dollface!

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  15. You can do it! I know that doesn't necessarily make it easier, but you can. I speak from the other side. :) After my boyfriend (now husband) moved back to be close to me so we could see if we could handle dating in the same state, he left again for his job. It was seriously so devastating, and I missed work for two days because I was emotionally sick. The airport visits are always the worst, but they go away. You seem to have such a strong support system of family and friends, and they will help! Keep busy. Enjoy the visits b/c they're the best. You can do it!!

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  16. sending you a big hug your way.

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  17. I just found your blog through CaseStudy. Your post literally made my heart hurt. I can't imagine having to go through that now. The bf & I were long distance for one summer, but I don't even count it because the longest we went was 3 wks without seeing each other.

    Sending you happy thoughts!

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